It has been nearly a year since my precious little Sidney died. I am still processing my thoughts and emotions as the day approaches. But for now, I thought I would share a few of the most ridiculous things that people have said to me in the past year. I have written about some of these in previous posts. In no particular order:
- This doesn’t happen to your demographic.
- It was really hard when my dog died. I know how you feel.
- Some people would not understand why you buried your son.
- Can’t you just pretend it was a miscarriage?
- I wasn’t sure if you were going to just move on, but it seems clear that you aren’t.
- I would bet money in Vegas that this won’t happen again (said by the OB before my autopsy results were in)
- Maybe this was nature’s way.
- The university cannot allow you to grieve indefinitely (after 5 months)
- It forces me to acknowledge he was a real human (after looking at Sidney’s picture)
- I have been surprised by how long your grief lasted.
- You need to accept that you may only have one child. Some people don’t even get that.
- I hope you are feeling better (in an email sent to me two days after Sidney died. I don’t have a cold. No I am not feeling better).
- Preschool teacher, who knows about Sidney’s death: I was wondering if anything was going on at home. Me: Eli’s brother is still dead.
I am sure there are more, but those are the ones that I can think of right now. What are some of your ‘favorite’ things that people have said to you?